1. January 14, 2009

   Susan and Rich

   It has been suggested that it is best if my parents live in their house as long as they are capable, even with some help. I’m wondering how long this will be satisfactory and what we should be doing to prepare for an eventual move into assisted living. The parents seem to be doing well now and we don’t want to upset them with discussion of assisted living elsewhere. Do we just wait and see? Has anyone else dealt w/ this?

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2. January 14, 2009

   Dottie

   The time is coming when my mother-in-law will no longer be able to live in her own home and care for her self. My husband and I are trying to decide whether it would be best to place her in an assisted living situation or have her live with us. We are trying to evaluate the pros and cons and wondered if anyone else had similar experience?

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   • May 16, 2010

     Sarah

     There are are Pros and Cons as you say. My husband and I weighed heavily on the idea of my mother coming to live with us. We thought we could try it and if it didn’t work then we would place her in assisted living. My husband gets along fine with my mother so that wasn’t a problem. However she is getting to a point where her level of care is increasing and that does cut into our family time and plans. If we want to go away for the weekend or vacation we have to make arrangements for someone to come and stay with mom. Still it is nice having her. Think these things through.

     Sarah

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   • May 17, 2010

     P.Q.

     Good for you. I lost my both of my parents at an early age as did my husband. We both wonder sometimes what we have missed, the ideas, th e memories, family history. Elders may be a bother to take care of sometime, just remember we are all getting older. If you have them enjoy them.

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3. January 14, 2009

   Lucille

   To Dottie – this is somethng many of us have gone through. We brought my mother to our home and it worked out nicely. My teenagers got to discover a lot of family history and they actually helped out. I realzie circumstances are different for every family. I know what your going through. God Bless you.
   Lucille – Flagstaff, AZ

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   • May 20, 2010

     Frances

     Having an elderly parent live with you depends on the two key factors, one of which is the physical well being and mental acuity of the person. The other of course is the level of care the family is able to provide. My father came to live with us and it worked out fine. He is spry and sharp at 80! However my mother in law became mentally diminished with Alzheimer’s disease and we would not have been able to coop.

     Carefully evaluate all the situations that you think might arise becasue they probably will.
     Frances

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